Two people meet, they fall in love, get engaged, and begin planning their wedding. 90% of the time, I’m photographing an engagement session for my couples as a way to help them relax, get used to working with me, and to have a trial run before their wedding day when everything feels like it’s happening three times faster than normal.
But after the wedding day, how often are couples taking photographs together? Especially during that time it’s just the two of them and there are no children. (Of if there are children — how often are we stepping away for a little one-on-one time with our spouses?) It’s my personal experience that until I became a photographer and felt the need to practice being on the other side of the camera, Dustyn and I had a lot of snapshots, but no professional photographs. But why? I now love having our walls decorated with photographs of us from the 10 years we were married and without children. Our former foster daughter and biological daughter love walking up to them and identifying us and seeing how we’ve changed (and how many times my hair color / hair style changed).
Sara and Rich shared with me that they had no professional photographs of themselves. They’ve been married for nearly 8 years. During our session, they shared they aren’t into PDA and I had to ask them to step closer to one another. They needed to invade each other’s space. I joked that our session might feel like couple’s therapy because it’s not very often that we take the time to stop, especially once married and the pressure of planning a wedding is over, to slow down and focus on our love for our spouse. To snuggle, get a little closer, to breathe each other in.
I love that as I scroll through this session, I can see how much more relaxed and comfortable they became — not just with me, but with one another — they began to sink into each other and the result feels so intimate to me. I promise I’m not trying to make a sales pitch for another session, but think about taking some time for yourselves. Allow yourselves these memories to pass along to your children so they can see who you were when you were 30 and so much life and change was yet to come.
P.S. Rich’s response when he saw Sara all dolled up for the session was absolutely priceless. She went to have her hair and makeup done with Angela and Rich and I drove to the site together. When she stepped out of the car and he caught a glimpse of her, he was so sweet and wonderful saying, “Baby, you look sooo beautiful.” Ah! I love it!